How do you get it? Honestly, I come into contact with too many people who are simply waiting for “it” to happen. They may not even know what “it” is . . . or they may know full well but for one reason or another they’ve simply been standing idly by while they hope that “it” simply appears spontaneously. Well, if there’s something that I’ve learned, it’s that meaningful achievements don’t appear — they’re earned!
For example, if you’re interested in getting married, you need to know that it’s going to require work. If you want to be a parent, then you need to know that parenthood isn’t easy — it will require work. If you want to join the ministry, it will require mental, spiritual, and emotional work. If you want to become (more) successful, then you need to know that people only trip and fall into success in movies — real-life success requires work.
What really separates the successful from the unsuccessful is their ability to overcome resistance. There is always some degree of resistance. We may find this resistance inside ourselves (as when our body starts “complaining” when we start exercising again) or from outside obstacles (like a negative friend, tough circumstances, or a critical boss). But successful people overcome this resistance. In Tony Dungy’s autobiography he says: “Things will go wrong at times. You can’t always control circumstances. However, you can always control your attitude, approach, and response” (Quiet Strength). I guess what I’m trying to say is that we all have things that we can’t control in our lives, but how are we react to them determines our future more than they do? Are we devising ways to overcome them, or are we watching others do it while we complain about our lot in life? In essence, if you want to reach 3 levels above where you are, then don’t worry about level 3. First, get from where you are to level 2: then you will be in a position to achieve level 3. Success is achieved one step at a time by focusing on your goals more than the obstacles every step of the way.
Now go get what you want.